• Are you preparing for a major relationship change (e.g., engaged, expecting a child, a major move).
• Do you feel things stagnating (or worsening!) and want to address problems before they get too big?
• Know you want some kind of help, but unsure about the best approach?

In a Relationship Checkup, we spend 2-3 sessions assessing your relationship and building a plan to nurture it long-term. Like a dental checkup or physical, you get expert input without committing to full therapy.

In my own work, I found these brief work is a great start even for major concerns.

• Do you find yourself circling back to the same few arguments over and over without making progress?
• Do you work fine as “coparents” or “roommates,” but have lost “the spark” that brought you together?
• Feeling unsure about how to move forward after a recent disruption (e.g., affair, trauma, or loss)?

For my couple therapy clients, I work on the pattern as a whole, helping you coordinate small changes to make big differences. This work generally takes 6-12 months, though can go longer if new problems emerge.

I have trained in a range of “evidence-based” treatments for relationship problems — techniques that have been extensively tested to offer the best chance for improvement.

• Do you find yourself lashing out and behaving the most critically to the people you love the most?
• Do you and your partner periodically “lose control” in chaotic arguments, perhaps even getting physical?
• Do you feel like you can only switch between “bottling it up” and “boiling over?”

Depending on your needs, I am trained in different individual and couple-based treatments for high-conflict and sometimes-violent relationships.

My own research has shown that different couples need very different supports, but I will work with you to be as responsive as possible while maximizing safety.

Note I do NOT provide court evaluations and am NOT trained to make determinations for Child Protective Services.